Self-Love: 10 Journal Prompts for Cultivating a Better Relationship with Yourself

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To practice self-love means to commit to having a better relationship with yourself. Here are 10 journal prompts to help you explore the topic of self-love and embark on this amazing journey. Oh, if you haven’t already, check out my first video for Self-Love September (hosted by the awesome Kelly-Ann Maddox): “Under the Self-Love Umbrella”, in which I talk about what self-love could mean, what self-love means to me, and some of the important elements in a self-love practice.

1. What is “self-love”?

Do a free association exercise or brainstorming session on the concept of self-love and what it constitutes. Circle the ones that resonate with you the most and underline the ones that aren’t jamming with you. Analyze your answer and reflect on how your preferences reflect your attitudes towards self-love.

2. How do you define self-love? What does it mean to love yourself? 

For this journal prompt, start by noting down the general notion of practicing self-love, then provide a specific example. For instance, if you write down “Self-love means taking care of yourself.” What does it mean to take care of yourself? E.g. Exercising regularly, stop saying “yes” to social gatherings that you don’t wish to attend, or avoiding eating too much sugar and fried food because you know there will be a pimple-pocalypse the next day if you don’t. Coming up with specific examples will really allow you to examine your current self-love practice and figure out what self-love means to you.

3. What does it mean to not love yourself? What are some of the behaviours or attitudes that contradict the practice of self-love? 

This is also a good opportunity to reflect on how you’ve been engaging in activities or thought-loops that aren’t exactly serving you in a self-loving manner. What are the behaviours, habits or attitudes that you know are bad for you?

4. Think of a friend of somebody that you know. Consider your interactions and try to recall a time where you feel deeply as you think to yourself, “Man, my friend just needs to love him/herself more.” 

This could be an instance where you feel protective or even indignant of your friend’s behaviour, or towards something that is happening to your friend. Why do you think you are triggered by that event? Often, we are triggered and feel indignant about something because we have experienced it or are experiencing it right now. How do your sentiments for your friend serve as a mirror to your own life and your own self-love journey?

5. Do you think being self-loving is a form of narcissism? What’s the difference between “self-love” and narcissism? 

A lot of people tend to confuse self-love with being selfish, and claim that it is an act of narcissism. What happens when you have too much self love? What does that look like?

6. Do you harbour any negative sentiments or hang-up’s about self-love? Have you ever been criticized or judged for practicing self-love?

Have you ever received backlash when you offer advice to somebody in need of some self-loving? How has that affected you and why do you think people have reacted negatively to the idea? What can you learn from their reactions and use this understanding to help you grow?

7. List 10 words or terms that either represent the idea of “self-love”, or are connected to the idea of self love. Once you’re done listing, explore the similarities and differences between each one. 

Here is a quick list of words under the self-love umbrella to get you started: self-compassion, authenticity, self-esteem, self-worth, optimism, level-up, self-value, personal boundaries, tough love, being your own friend, etc. How are they similar and how are they different? Which words do you prefer? Why do they speak to you more than the other words?

8. What are the most important elements that need to be present in a self-loving relationship? 

Let’s start with 10 things, then boil it down to 5. At this point, every concept should be pretty interconnected. Let’s see if you could boil it down even more to 3.

9. Why do you want to love yourself more? What is the purpose of loving yourself and building a better relationship with yourself? 

When it comes to cultivating positive changes in life, it’s crucial to infuse it with a sense of authentic purpose. Without purpose, there is no motivation. Without motivation, there is no commitment. You gotta want to love yourself more to love yourself more.

10. What are some of the challenges that you have faced (or may face) when you are trying to practice self-love? How can you circumnavigate those challenges? How do you make sure that you are on the right track and you are setting yourself to win? 

Time to do some troubleshooting!

Money Matters: 10 Journal Prompts for Attracting Abundance

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1. How do you define the word “abundance”? What does it mean to have an abundant life?

Depending on your upbringing, worldview, personality and needs, your definition of abundance is going to be different from everybody else’s. Cultivate your unique sense of abundance to avoid toxic comparison paradigms when you are trying to grow your wealth!

2. What are some of the attitudes and beliefs surrounding money that you grew up with?

For example, how did your parents handle money? What was considered frugal, and what was considered wasteful? (You can make a chart or graph to represent the opposite sides of the spectrum and explore what falls in the “Temperance”, or the balance zone for you. What’s “just right?”)  How have these attitudes and beliefs affected you and the way you spend your money?

3. Reflect on your experiences with money so far.

Abundance is the experience that we have with money. Have they been mostly positive? Negative? Overflow? Lack? Both? Ups and downs? Be as specific as you can. If your experience has been largely positive–positive in what way? List specific examples e.g. The money that I earn allows me to support myself, my family and the charities that I believe in (positive). E.g. I have always struggled to make ends meet. Life goes on but this stops me from enjoying the pleasures of life (negative). Once you have reflected–what can you do to shifts your attitudes and steer your experiences towards the direction that you want?

4. Money can’t buy happiness. Do you agree or disagree? Why?

More often than not, the answer to this question isn’t absolute. It’s a bit of a yes and a bit no, or a lot of yes and some no.

5. What are your favourite abundance affirmations or mantars? Why are they your favourites? How have they helped you so far in your pursuit of more abundance?

Finding the kind of words and vocabulary that you resonate with is a great way because it helps you use more specific language to set personal goals, because you’ll be writing them down with words that vibrate on your frequency.

6. What are your least favourite abundance affirmations or mantras?

(You don’t have to “hate” them per se, but these would be affirmations and mantras that you don’t personally jam with, or feels disconnected towards). Why is that? Is it the word choice? The concept itself? Does this point to some of your unresolved issues or emotions in money in any way? How can you work towards resolving it?

7. Do you believe you are worth the money you are making, or worth the money that you are trying to attract? 

Your sense of worth and confidence have a direct and crucial connection to your sense of abundance. Do you feel like you deserve to have more money? If not, why do you think you are feeling this way? How can you cultivate a more empowered perspective on your self worth and money?

8. How do you define “success”? How does this affect  your understanding and experience of abundance?

Conventional definitions of success often place pressure on how much we are supposed to have and how we are supposed to live our lives in order to be happy or “abundant”.

9. Do you think money is a good thing or a bad thing?

What are some of the positive associations or positive things you can do with money? What are some of the negative associations or negative things you can do with money? Try doing a free-association exercise with “money” in the centre. You can try using a mind-map or just jot down whatever words or concepts that pop up as you brainstorm. Why do you think you associate money with the things you have written down? How can this insight help you attract more abundance?

10. Other than the life essentials, what is something that you are willing to spend money on–something that brings you genuine joy?

(E.g. a new book, a new tarot deck, classes to develop your talent, investing in a Kickstarter, etc) How does this reflect what you want in life and who you are as a person? Knowing the kind of experiences you want to have (through spending money and purchasing a product or a service) will strengthen your sense of purpose when you are working hard and trying to attract more money. It also allows you to feel like the things you are spending money on are worth your time and effort.